A horrible feeling word that usually blocks us from getting something we want. As a child I remember the word No almost feeling like a hit. I would never get a why for the No, it would just end the conversation for my ask. Now, I find the word No as a challenge.
I used to be scared to ask for anything for fear of getting a No, stopping me from doing most things that I would randomly think of and as a creative it was hard to accomplish anything with this mindset. My “great” ideas would die quickly, because I would think it’s impossible to bring it to life without a yes. So I stopped trying to be an artist and would wait for things to come to me, which would lead to me taking on work that I wasn’t passionate about.
I don’t remember when the shift happened. When my mindset went from being scared to saying ‘Fuck This, I’m gonna do it anyways.’ But it transformed me. I started making shit happen and it felt so good to feel more like the person I was supposed to be. The scared and worrisome me held me back, kept me in a safe and comfortable zone where there is no growth and I needed to shed that skin… so I did.
My mantra for No became—- If I don’t ask, the answer will always be No, and if it’s a No there is always a way to turn it into a Yes. And if it’s still a No, it wasn’t meant for me. I had to be ok with that last part, but also had to make sure I took the first step towards making shit happen.
If I don’t ask, the answer will always be No, so why not ask anyways?
And I love making shit happen. Creating something out of an idea in your head and bringing it to life. There are things that need a little support from your friends or strangers from the Internet. I learned that coming off as awkward was mostly just in my head and if the person on the other end of the ask thought I was weird, it was ok. It’s the weirdos that make the world go round, not the ones that play it safe.
So I challenge you to ask that question you’re scared to get a No for, because chances are you are the only one standing in the way of that Yes.